Solara’s Journal
I had a wonderful Christmas with family and friends this year! But that’s because I chose to do so! There have been a couple of Christmases where I really didn’t feel like being around a group of people, even family (especially family!) ~ but this time, I chose to go and have a good time and lo and behold! I did have a good time!
Sometimes, and I am sure I am not telling any of you anything new, family gatherings can be very stressful! There’s often a lot of judgement and criticism being thrown around in between the laughs, so you have to pick your way carefully through the minefield! But I made it through! Yea! I do love my family very much and enjoy their company ~ it is just that sometimes, I have to work very hard at it! But isn’t that just indicative of our journey through life?
Hard work is another of those rules in my family! I was taught that things don’t come easily to you ~ they don’t fall in your lap, you have to work hard for every scrap. If you didn’t work hard, then it was thought that there was something morally wrong with you, that you were lazy. Unfortunately, hard work taken to an extreme (as with anything) can be awfully hard on the physical encasement! Right now, I am working both ends of those extremes! I have worked hard until recently, to the detriment of my body, and now I am not working at all! Somewhere in there is the balance! I trust I will find it! (And for me, being with family is a good way to test that balance!)
May you find your balance point!
Posted in -Solara | December 29, 2005
December 29th, 2005 at 12:55 pm
Unlike others, family know you better which invites comments that have a bigger impact on the relationship - good or bad. I think you took the first step - you came from the place where you wanted to go and have a fun time so you were more centered. When you are more light filled, the family isn’t as inclined to attack or when they do, they have much less impact if the attacks are even seen as such any more. The work hard ethic is a common theme in many famiies here and all over the world. It’s one reason why we have this great country full of all this great infrastructure. But in the interest of our long term growth and development we need to manage our careers and not just keep mindlessly slave away or else the Universe may come knocking (or pounding).
It’s wonderful that you had a great time and I’m sending light that you find some work that is fulfilling!
December 29th, 2005 at 5:02 pm
Hey I really enjoyed your writing today. Not only because I enjoyed your story, but because I was recalling my decision to join my family on Christmas day this year, and my choice to enjoy it. While I’m sure you and I have different issues to address in family, it was interesting to see that the process worked for us both.
In my process I revealed my judgment and criticism toward my family, (which was why I saw it from them in the first place). Once I accepted them, I knew I would see that acceptance mirrored back to me… and gosh darn it, it was! I could tell they felt it from their side as well. It was most pleasant to bask in the glow of my own love circling around back to me.
Thanks for the reminder of what success I can achieve when I focus for a few moments. I produce something really valuable for myself and others.
December 30th, 2005 at 10:37 am
Thank you Berick for sending the light! I am sure it will help! Yes, our infrastructure in this country especially was buiit on alot of hard work, sweat and tears! That is something to be grateful for, as I benefit from it. It sure would be much more difficult without a handy grocery store or bank to go to, or a safe car to drive over that wonderfully strong bridge!
Wendy, I am so glad that you also enjoyed a Christmas with family! Yes, making the choice to enjoy and accept is what did the trick! What we send out does indeed come back to us - perhaps not right away, but sooner or later!
December 30th, 2005 at 7:22 pm
May you find your balance point, Solara ~ I expect you will since The Universe will be working with you. I am pleased to read that both you and Wendy approached this year’s family gatherings with a change in attitude ~ which Nina also discussed in her article, Time for Rebirth ~ For Change, http://www.terralux.org/2005/12/30/yoga-light-december-30-2005/. Change is certainly the theme for 2006! Light to us all!!